“Is In The Mirror autobiographical?”
This is the question that I hear most often from people who have read In The Mirror. When I confess that the story is completely made up, most don’t believe me. “It seems so real,” they say. I take that as a compliment, because when I was writing In The Mirror, everything seemed real to me.
“Why did you write it?” is the next question. And I say that In The Mirror came out of my desire to understand why and how a woman becomes “the other woman.” What is it about married men that attracts her? What does the other woman have to do in order to survive in that role? What sustains the other woman in that role? What role does the other woman play in an adulterous relationship? What is the other woman’s thought process? What power does the other woman have in an extramarital affair? What impact does the other woman have on her married lover’s family, and indeed, on his own family? How does the other woman see herself in this type of relationship? How does the other woman not see herself? Exactly who is the other woman?
In writing In The Mirror, I answered all of these questions and several more that I didn’t know needed to be addressed. The answers are not easy, and I often found myself at odds with them. But I learned a lot about the other woman. And dare I say, I now understand her a lot better than I did before I wrote this book.